Death
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Death asks a lot of us. We have to be very far reaching in the scope of our thinking to take it in, to make room for it ( a friend recently told me) That said, we need to be able to rise above it, not ignore it but rather accept it.
I don't like death in concept and reality, but who does? Death does however function as a exit from several situations in which escape is impossible. Rather then being a cowardly way out, most times it strikes when we least expect it. Our loss can be in turn a persons gain. While they no longer live in pain or illness we in some form take on the pain they were feeling.
Three years and not a day goes by that I don't regret not saying things to Mom or for that matter Dad and his parents. If I were to re live late October 2002, many things would have gone different, but of course this wisdom only comes through experience, trial and error if you will. My mothers death has been likely the worst and best learning experience I have ever had. It has shown me who is right there for me in a time of need, and who isn't, friend or family. For those that weren't there for me, just know I have made it this far with out you. I don't intend on running back to you now if I haven't already.
Death in case you all forgot is something we will all experience, its on our agenda whether we like it or not, its just not known when. I prefer not to know when that will happen for me, nor would anyone else I would imagine. Its impossible for me to stress enough that life is a fragile thing, and when its done its exactly that ... Done.
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I'll response to a few elements of this:
Rather then being a cowardly way out, most times it strikes when we least expect it. Our loss can be in turn a persons gain. While they no longer live in pain or illness we in some form take on the pain they were feeling.
You are right in this aspect, which is why I am a supporter of "right to die" laws. At the same, I would point out, that in the case of suicide, death can be a cowardly way out - choosing to end one's life rather than to solve one's problems. I know that's not what you meant by the above passage, that you were specifically indicating death as a result of illness, but it was a broad statement so I figured I'd clarify it.
Three years and not a day goes by that I don't regret not saying things to Mom or for that matter Dad and his parents. If I were to re live late October 2002, many things would have gone different, but of course this wisdom only comes through experience, trial and error if you will. My mothers death has been likely the worst and best learning experience I have ever had. It has shown me who is right there for me in a time of need, and who isn't, friend or family. For those that weren't there for me, just know I have made it this far with out you. I don't intend on running back to you now if I haven't by now.
Unfortunately, most of us only truly learn lessons as a result of major events in our lives, myself included. However, your statement supports a mantra I believe in living by: live every day as if it was your last. As you point out below, we have no idea when are lives will end. It's something most of us never think about. But then, when we finally have to stare death in the face, we look back and think of how much we could have accomplished. I use this argument to justify my social agenda, but neverthless, its something I think that if everyone lived by, we'd have a lot more happy and sucessful people.
Death in case you all forgot is something we will all experience, its on our agenda whether we like it or not, its just not known when. I prefer not to know when that will happen for me, nor would anyone else I would imagine. Its impossible for me to stress enough that life is a fragile thing, and when its done its exactly that ... Done.
I agree but disagree with your statements on the above. It would be nice to know when we would die because I think it would give some perspective on the brevitity of our lives, but at the same time, to know that information would indicate that there is a set destiny for everyone an idea I am strongly opposed to.
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